Thinking Outside the Box
As a society, our future can only be as strong and secure as our child-rearing practices. We must understand the relationship between early experiences and the healthy development of children. Yet, as famed psychologist John Bowlby stated, “There have been, and still are, clinicians and others…who have found it difficult to believe that accessibility or inaccessibility of an attachment figure can of itself be a crucial variable in determining whether a child (or an adult for that matter) is happy or distressed.”
To ignore this essential need for early attachment is to set the stage for chronic violence during childhood. The absence of appropriate nurturing or of key attachment figures is an act of violence, as experienced by the young child. All those who make decisions about a child’s life—everyone from parents to teachers to those who produce the songs and videos that children watch—must recognize the devastating impact of such violence and instead strive to create a more peaceful and loving world, emphasizing humane values, for the next generation.
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For more than four decades, parents have met with Dr. Haiman to resolve child and adolescent rearing problems. His work in this area has received national recognition and been featured in local newspaper articles.
He has provided individual psychotherapy to adults and adolescents over the past 25 years. Dr. Haiman has
served as a child custody expert witness to courts and provided child custody advice for parents involved in divorce. In child custody divorce cases, he provides competent psychosocial developmental knowledge that can be applied to the individual child and family situation. In particular, he specializes in promoting child custody attachment parenting and aiding with child custody visitation. He continues to do this work, and can be contacted about it through this website.
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HOW TO PREVENT SIBLING RIVALRY
A plethora of books, articles, videos, and advice about
how to prevent or to handle sibling rivalry is available for parents
with two or more children. But to what degree is all this information
useful? How valuable is it really?
In fact, many experts fail to do what is perhaps most important when
it comes to dealing with sibling rivalry: look at what is happening
through the child’s emotional eyes. And so the parents they advise
also fall short in this way. Parents try hard to be helpful, but they
do so from the point of view of a caring parent. They don’t always
understand what their children are trying to tell them.
For a moment, imagine yourself as an infant. Look at and feel things
as...
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"As ever, your analysis of the problem seems accurate and your advice has been very helpful. I still have a way to go but at least I'm moving in the right direction"
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"Thank you for your well written and much needed article on the
case against time-outs. As a therapist, I am well aware
of the problems we have in this country in parenting our children and
have worked with many families in a therapeutic setting on parenting
skills and other issues. But, it wasn't until I became a parent myself
and joined a mothers club that I saw in the general population (vs.
clinical population) the myths that are so pervasive about parenting
in our culture."
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