Thinking Outside the Box
Organizations such as the National Association for the Education of Young Children, La Leche League, Attachment Parenting International, and the American Academy of Pediatrics can no longer remain politically inactive. These organizations have been primarily educational in purpose and isolated by nature. Yet, current child-rearing practices, influenced by changing values and the media, seriously damage child development.
In 1997 I wrote "Cooperation Will Make It Happen," published in the Journal of Psychohistory, which described the erosion of the extended family and consequences for children and adolescents. I announced a meeting of educational leaders to create The Alliance for Children. Although the meeting was held in Washington DC in 1997, and most in attendance viewed the alliance as critical for children and the future of our democracy, no subsequent meetings occurred.
In the intervening fifteen years, child rearing in this country has become more damaging to children. They are growing up less educated, more violent, with less humane values, and less thoughtful and caring of others. Our leaders behave more violently and cannot cooperate. It is time for the above organizations to join together and form an alliance that will improve social and cultural influences on child rearing so the next generation can continue to enjoy freedom in the United States.
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For more than four decades, parents have met with Dr. Haiman to resolve child and adolescent rearing problems. His work in this area has received national recognition and been featured in local newspaper articles.
He has provided individual psychotherapy to adults and adolescents over the past 25 years. Dr. Haiman has
served as a child custody expert witness to courts and provided child custody advice for parents involved in divorce. In child custody divorce cases, he provides competent psychosocial developmental knowledge that can be applied to the individual child and family situation. He works with clients and their attorneys to develop court room strategies, based on childrearing research. In particular, he specializes in promoting child custody attachment parenting and aiding with child custody visitation. He continues to do this work, and can be contacted about it through this website.
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A plethora of books, articles, videos, and advice about
how to prevent or to handle sibling rivalry is available for parents
with two or more children. But to what degree is all this information
useful? How valuable is it really?
In fact, many experts fail to do what is perhaps most important when
it comes to dealing with sibling rivalry: look at what is happening
through the child’s emotional eyes. And so the parents they advise
also fall short in this way. Parents try hard to be helpful, but they
do so from the point of view of a caring parent. They don’t always
understand what their children are trying to tell them.
For a moment, imagine yourself as an infant. Look at and feel things
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