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March 21, 2013
I can't thank you enough for the research report. It is perfect! I enjoyed all of it, but one section really stood out. You mentioned the risk of losing behavioral gains. _____ was weaned last year when she was 18 months old (9 months ago). It was an easy transition; she was ready. In the past 3-4 months she now frequently asks to nurse. She attempts to pull down my shirt at least once daily and even latches if she can!! She constantly asks to play with my chest and has to fall asleep laying on my chest. I never realized this behavior could coincide with the stress she's been put under as she is consistently forced to leave me.
Let's hope this report will get through to some hard-headed and misinformed people! My attorney is a bright guy and fights for what I want but even he needs to read this. I forwarded it to him and will discuss it with him before I meet with the mediator (she will also get a copy).
Thank you so much!
February 12, 2013
'The case against time out'… yes! I read that article! I loved it! I have been on a search for a few months for alternatives to time out since it seems my daughter is getting some harm from it (wetting herself during, biting her nails after, etc.).
I just listened to one of your audio clips ... and within the first 2 minutes I realized why my daughter bites her nails. It is because she has been raised with "time out" from the age of 10 months. We used this because we both are determined not to ever spank her (we never have), because we do not want to treat her the way we were treated as children. We have both suffered from our childhoods. Thank goodness we were married 10 years before we gave birth to our daughter. In that time we learned a great deal.
We are committed to raising our daughter as a free person ... with her own rights ... with love and respect. I am sad to have made such a mistake that has obviously injured her and caused the nail biting ... but I am so happy to have found your article and audio clip so I can learn how to do it right! I love her ... and I never want to hurt her the way I have been hurt.
Thank you so much for the work that you do. Because of you and all your hard work my daughter will get to grow up having never been spanked or humiliated or shamed ... that is indeed the best continual Christmas gift any child could receive!
There is a spreading of this way of parenting as well. I have been talking about this for a while with the parents in my daughter's play group and many are accepting these new ways of parenting and adopting them as their own. Love and thanks.
November 12, 2012
I wanted to let you know how it went in court last Friday. It went very well in the mother’s favor. Him and his attorney were very arrogant and belligerent. They of course tried to intimidate her in the hallway. She held her ground in a very nice and sweet manner. The parenting plan counselor showed up and mother's behalf. That went well, in fact very well.
The only things we could go over in this court date was parenting hours and safe exchange and nursing. All was ruled in her favor.
This guy and his attorney were stunned. We could not believe it. There is justice after all. We know that we have a long road but at least this is a bright time for her and her young son. She stood her ground in a very respectful way and stern. She went in very prepared with your information as well. You would have been proud of her. For being just twenty years old she knew what way best for the baby and she went for it.
His attorney was taken back because he could not intimidate her.
Thank you for your encouraging us through this. I will continue to keep you informed with all the latest developments.
October 24, 2012
I am an early childhood educator and I currently work in a nonprofit organization helping parents/caregivers through the phone with concerns about their children 0-5. I have read so many articles and I am constantly searching to support these parents with so many different concerns. On one of my searches I found Dr. Haiman’s articles and I just love them!! I love the way he put together the information, it is easy to read and understand. I feel I am talking to him while I read them. The topics he talks about are very common questions people call us for. Discipline, sibling rivalry, emotional development, etc. are very important topics that in my experience of searching I haven’t found it easy to get the information I am looking for. Dr. Haiman’s articles have been very helpful for me to get more knowledge as a mother and as a professional helping families. I am very thankful for his insights and to have found this great information. Thank you for your dedication.
April 3, 2012
While researching the internet for information on how visitation schedules can affect my 2-year old granddaughter, I came across Dr. Haiman’s website. I, too, began reading the comments left by others who had come in contact with Dr. Haiman and I was so impressed that I decided to call him myself. He answered my call immediately and spent a good deal of time listening to me and my situation regarding my granddaughter, who is experiencing a very harmful visitation schedule. Dr. Haiman gave me a great deal of information and then for a very fair fee wrote a detailed letter to the court system (my daughter is appealing through) regarding the harmful impact the type of visitation schedule would have on my grandchild if it continued on. His information was well cited and I know he spent a great deal of time elaborating on the negative impact the current visitation schedule could have on her future if it did not change. Dr. Haiman is a kind, personable man whom I would highly recommend if you have children and are facing situations that could negatively impact your child. His supportive and concerned nature, and especially his willingness to go beyond what seems to more and more be the standard of “money first,” is impressive and refreshing!
A concerned grandmother
May 31, 2011
Hi. Just came across your wisdom! I'm a school psychologist by profession but also a wife, mother, daughter and sister. I have three children 6 and under and feeling imprisoned lately... I have always felt that children are gifts from God, but you made me realize how, by being a more informed parent and mindful of how I was raised. My children hold the keys to my freedom from an imprisoned past. I want to be a better parent for my children and my children’s children. So if I need to, I will seek therapy.
January 6, 2011
Dear Dr. Haiman,
Thank you so much for all your help with finding me a new lawyer in_______ and your advice with my custody situation for my son. I know this probably isn't much, but I wanted to send you a thank you with some money I got for Christmas. Your help has meant the world to me! Your advice has been wonderful, and it is just so nice to feel like I have someone willing to fight for the well-being of my son. Thank you so much!
September 28, 2010
Thank you so much for your heartwarming and encouraging email. I have met so many really kind and caring people in the last couple of months, Peter, and you were the first of them. You appeared in our lives at a time when I didn’t know where to turn or how to find help for my son and our family.
This brings me to reflect with gratitude on the insight and genuine care you have shown towards myself, my son and my husband, although we have only been in touch through email as we live in Ireland. You were prepared to help us negotiate our way through all the red tape and various organisations to find the help we needed although you live so far away. You pointed me in a direction and set me on a path. I got lost many times but you helped me get my focus back. You never lost patience, gently prompting me to work out, with ________ and _______'s help what was best for us as a family. You always seem to know the right questions to ask.
At one stage you pointed out that maybe ________ felt he had never been listened to since he was a tiny child. I asked ________ if this was how he felt and he said he had been trying to tell me this for years, but of course I hadn’t been listening. I don’t know how you worked that out, Peter, as you haven’t been talking to ________, but you encouraged me to ask questions and to really listen to the answers.
Although our son is 19, you have given us hope that it is not too late to turn things around and to help him realise his potential as a complete human being. It is not too late for us to become a healthy functioning family. You encouraged me to ask questions and listen, really listen, to what my husband and son had to say. You never used the word "controlling," but talking to you and learning to listen to ________, I came to realise how controlling I am in my relationships both with my husband and son. You also helped me find a counselor here, who has been a wonderful help to me.
When I first wrote to you, I was extremely distressed and worried I was going to lose my son, but now I look forward to our lives in the future with hope. My son hasn’t completely stopped drinking or taking drugs, yet we have stopped having arguments and his asthma has disappeared again. He is also getting counseling.
The three of us climbed a mountain together last week in the West of Ireland. It was something we tried to plan since the beginning of the year, but it was cancelled so many times due to ________’s addiction. ________ said he felt it was a new beginning for us and I believe it is. I also believe it is largely thanks to your encouragement, insight and help that we have got to this point, Peter. We have got back a son who tells us every day that he loves us and really means it. The lines of communication between us are open again. The words “kindness” and “love” continually feature in your vocabulary, Peter. You are one of the kindest, most loving people I have ever met.
A while ago I sent you a card with a quotation from St. Frances Xavier “Nothing is so strong as gentleness, nothing is so gentle as real strength.” To me this is the essence of the man that you are.
I don’t know how to thank you except just to say “Thank you!”
With love from
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