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Hello Peter
I just wanted to let you know that today I followed your guidance about giving
______ his “power and sense of self back” and I while ______
was crawling up our stairs with us close behind her, I whispered to him, “_____,
do you see ______ crawling up the stairs? Do you know where she learned
that and who she is imitating?” _______ said, “Daddy?” I
said, “No, she is imitating you and by watching you, she has learned
to do this! You have taught your sister how to climb the stairs! You are
a wonderful teacher and a wonderful big brother!” He BEAMED from
ear to ear and everyone we encountered today heard about how he has taught
_______ to climb the stairs....
We had several temper tantrums and several other “challenging moments” but
I think that we are headed in the right direction – thanks to you Peter.
I will definitely be sending you some compensation for your time and interest
in helping me with______ some time in the next couple of weeks. I know that
you said money isn't that important to you, and I cannot afford to send you
a lot, but I will be sending something and wanted you to know that the simple
fact that you were willing to listen and give us some advice means so much
to us. If I were wealthy, I'd send you so much more, for your time and knowledge
is invaluable.
Thanks Peter!!
Warmest Regards,
Dear Dr. Peter Ernest Haiman, PH.D.;
I was cleaning out our basement recently and I found your old business card so
I decided to contact you to express my gratitude.
I wanted to thank you setting our family off in the right Direction with the
knowledge you shared with us years ago. I took two classes from you in Albany
in 1987. The first class I took when I was pregnant and then I took another after
my son was born. Thanks to your guidance, I was shown a model that helped to
create a wonderful warm loving 19 year old young man.
My husband and I were married 16 years before our son _____ was born and he was
precious to our lives long before we saw him. In the beginning years ago there
was a hesitation to have children because I had come from an abusive background
and I feared being a mother. I never wanted to repeat the patterns that I grew
up with. After we wanted children it took us many years, several miscarriages
to have a beautiful boy.
The arrival of a healthy beautiful boy was momentous in our lives. Your positive
role models were my first direct experiences with a different way of life. I
knew what I didn't want to do, but when you said "do you want to eat in
the blue bowl or the red bowl?" and talked about giving a child choices,
the light went on and I could see more of what I wanted to do. I could see a
positive way of dealing with child rearing from your example and it has worked
for us. We continued to read and learn as he grew up which has been exciting.
Fortunately, I was very committed to breaking the cycle of violence in my family
long before I wanted to have children, and I am happy to say that neither of
us has ever been physically or mentally abusive to my son. The cycle stopped
with this generation and our son has grown up in an extremely loving supportive
environment. He tells me everyday that he loves me even though he has had a steady
girl friend for over two years. Your lessons gave me my first tools to help raise
a child in a manner that was respectful and I am grateful.
When our son was about 3 months old I remember taking a test that you gave us
to determine some of his psychological traits. My husband and I have commented
on the fact that this personality has not changed since this test we took about
him years ago. The test seemed very
accurate to both of us.
I am so very glad that you were here for me to take a class, just a short walking
distance from our home, almost 20 years ago. Thank you for being such a kind
sharing warm human being. Your influence had a very positive ripple effect in
the lives of our family.
Gratefully yours,
October 13. 1991
Dear Dr. Haiman,
Enclosed you will find a card, which I thought I had sent to my attorney to forward
to you since I did not have your address at the time. I found it the other day
in one of my notebooks, and sadly realized that it had never been mailed.
My attorney’s office recently forwarded your bill to me for the fees and
costs you incurred during the course of my trial. As I mentioned to you on the
phone prior to the trial, I am severely strapped financially at this point in
time, I will however make monthly payments to you. Enclosed is a check for $50.00.
I will make every effort to pay you this amount each month or more when possible,
but I will at least pay something each month. If this arrangement is not acceptable
to you, please let me know.
It’s been quite a whirlwind this past month. I absolutely love my new job
even though it’s been very demanding. I’ve been swamped with challenges
and obligations, but I stil1love it, so I know I’m in my right place! ______
and ______ are adjusting just fine. It’s been a real challenge because
it’s not home schooling the way we knew it, but rather independent study.
It’s different, but still flexible and accommodating to my son’s
individual educational needs. We are happy and we are going in a positive direction.
Again, I thank you so very much from the bottom of my heart. Your testimony was
most significant and thus invaluable to me and my children and our future. I
am very grateful to you for your compassion and willingness to help me at a time
when I really needed help. I trust all is well with you and your family. If I
can ever be of any assistance to you, please don’t hesitate to ask. Thank
you again.
Sincerely,
July 29, 2009
Dear Dr. Haiman,
It was such a pleasure to speak with you on the phone. You provided me with some
excellent insight and advice. I have since read more of your articles and find
your work to be amazing and compassionate. I studied child development at UC
Davis before going on to dental school. I would like to send you some information
about my son _______ and our current battle so you can hopefully give me more
insight on how this is affecting my son and his emotional
development.
Thank you,
April 26, 2010
Thank you for your work and writing.
You have it right on. I had always wondered why we always get on better with
our babies rather than the two year olds and upwards. You have given me
the answer! It is because for the young ones we have been taught to give
them what they need and try to understand them..but the older ones: we
have been taught that we have to get them to do what we want them to do!
As a result we don't get along with them, they are unhappy and we are frustrated.
Thank you for reminding us of what we instinctively know when we have just
gotten our children but forget so soon.
May 19, 2010
Hi! I don't know if you remember me. My daughter's name is ________. I sent you
an email a couple of months ago on her defiant behavior. I just wanted to
let you know that the supermarket is her favorite place to go now!! Ha-ha.
Considering I gave her a problem to solve instead of a choice she loved it!!
Her behavior has gotten much better in general. I wanted to thank you for
taking the time with me to talk about the difficulties I was having. You
are certainly one to respect and if I ever need you in the future I won't
hesitate to call.
sincerely,
Berkeley, CA
Dear Peter,
Thank you for your help and your knowledge.
I believe our difficult situation is easing using many of your suggestions
and insights.
I will be in touch with you again.
July 17, 2008
Dear Dr. Haiman,
Thank you from my heart for the wisdom and guidance you provided to me during
our conversation yesterday. As I prepare to take on the challenges ahead,
it is a great comfort to know that I can continue to seek your expertise.
I will use it wisely and with fortitude.
Warmly,
