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Hi Peter
How are you doing? I was wondering if you ever received the card and photos I sent you? Things are better here. We have implemented all of your suggestions, have moved the T.V into the basement (where it belongs! :-)) and I am napping ______ and _____. Bedtime doesn’t go quite as quickly as it did prior to napping, but it is nice to have a little boy that I can deal with in the evenings we are all much happier and our home is very peaceful. Thanks!
July 27, 1998
I sincerely appreciated your article. I have a 27 month old daughter, _____, and we are expecting a son, ______, in November. I have been struggling with ways to deal with what everyone else would call “normal toddler behavior,” i.e., the temper tantrums which seem to only happen at the mall or the grocery store for us, and running off on me when we are outside. She is a very precocious child, full of affection and endless energy.
When we experience one of the above-mentioned moments, I do admit that it is likely a result of her being either tired or over-stimulated (in re: to temper tantrums), and as to the latter, she is under-stimulated from being cooped-up in the house with me all day.
Which brings me to my question/dilemna. I stay at home with ______ at a cost. We are strapped financially and the consequences are that she and I are often stuck at home when my husband is at work, not always, but often. We life in a apartment complex where we rarely see any other children, and we live in Austin, Texas, which is quite, quite hot these days. So she gets very bored. And I feel terrible that she has no toddler companions. Do you have any suggestions to fill her day? We color, read, play basketball, play-doh, she helps me with household stuff.
8 August 1999
Dear Dr. Haiman,
I found your questions about how I came to the interpretations I had come to (regarding my employer) disturbing but as it turns out, they were more on the mark than I had wanted to acknowledge.
On 2 August I gave notice to resign. _______, my supervisor, was somewhat taken aback and asked if I would be willing to talk about my decision. That led to hours of discussion and analysis of specific incidences. What became clear is that we do not interpret each other’s actions accurately. As a result of our discussions and an action he had already initiated on his own, we have agreed to meet with a facilitator to see what, if anything, can be done to improve communication between us.
I am not likely to stay with the ________ for a long time as emotionally it is too draining a place for me to work. But I now know that when I do leave, it will be by mutual agreement, not in severe frustration or any other reactive mode.
Thank you once again for meeting with me. And thank you for letting me know that I can call on you again, should I feel the need.
Respectfully,
January 30. 1993
Dear Dr. Haiman.
I wish to take this opportunity to express my sincere thanks and appreciation for your patience and willingness to acceptance monthly payments. I truly had no other way to repay you.
I am still not divorced (I think this is the longest divorce in history!) and the legal fees have been overwhelming. My husband is fighting me on every issue regarding the boys. But there is good news too. _______ is now 12 years old and is reading on grade level. He made another 3 year growth in reading last year and another 1 year growth during this last summer. He simply needed the time to develop as well as to deal with all the trauma from the divorce. Your testimony positively affected his life (as it did all of ours) by giving him the chance to move forward in his own way in his own time. It has been a challenge for him, but he has prevailed and become much stronger for it. Next year he will most likely attend the local junior high school for a couple of periods and homeschool with me for the rest, as his older brother is doing now.
______, my other son, is now 14 years old and bas attended 2 periods a day at the local junior high school and is a straight A student. He still prefers and misses, as do I, homeschooling the way we used to do it before I began fulltime employment. That first year was an adjustment for us all, but we are coping well under the circumstances and moving on.
Enclosed is a check for _______, which should pay off the balance of what I owe you. Anyway, I trust all is well with you. Again, thank you.
October 13. 1991
Dear Dr. Haiman,
Enclosed you will find a card, which I thought I had sent to my attorney to forward to you since I did not have your address at the time. I found it the other day in one of my notebooks, and sadly realized that it had never been mailed.
My attorney’s office recently forwarded your bill to me for the fees and costs you incurred during the course of my trial. As I mentioned to you on the phone prior to the trial, I am severely strapped financially at this point in time, I will however make monthly payments to you. Enclosed is a check for $50.00. I will make every effort to pay you this amount each month or more when possible, but I will at least pay something each month. If this arrangement is not acceptable to you, please let me know.
It’s been quite a whirlwind this past month. I absolutely love my new job even though it’s been very demanding. I’ve been swamped with challenges and obligations, but I still love it, so I know I’m in my right place! ______ and ______ are adjusting just fine. It’s been a real challenge because it’s not home schooling the way we knew it, but rather independent study. It’s different, but still flexible and accommodating to my son’s individual educational needs. We are happy and we are going in a positive direction.
Again, I thank you so very much from the bottom of my heart. Your testimony was most significant and thus invaluable to me and my children and our future. I am very grateful to you for your compassion and willingness to help me at a time when I really needed help. I trust all is well with you and your family. If I can ever be of any assistance to you, please don’t hesitate to ask. Thank you again.
Sincerely,
